Not a Pal, a Parent

It has been increasingly popular to raise children with the idea that parents are just pals and the kids get to make up their own minds about what is right for them. And what is not okay. Sometimes tantrums and screaming fits control the parents and the kids get their way.

That is not God’s plan.

God wants us to train our children. And we are to use discipline for that. Discipline means that we set guidelines, rules, expectations and the path to achieve those.

We are also to outline consequences for our kids. As we look at God’s Word, it is exactly what He has done for us. We follow His lead on this.

“Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. Punish them with the rod and save them from death.” Proverbs 23:13-14

The rod mentioned in this passage is a traditional tool used by shepherds. It could be used to toss near the sheep to get their attention. Sheep have something around them that is called a “flight zone” and it is a safe area where they don’t feel startled or threatened. A rod tossed near them in this area would get their attention but not frighten or hurt them.

Frankly, our “rod” with our kids is meant to get their attention but not frighten or hurt them. We are to use the rod to get and keep them on the right path.

We are to bring order and discipline into their lives. That is a system of teaching and a program designed to give them a goal and a plan to achieve it. We come alongside to make it doable. Punishment is the consequence to refusing to follow. Our kids have to learn that there are consequences to their actions.

So, we make it our goal to set goals for then that will mean they end up as men and women of God.

We pray, Heavenly Father, that You would give us the eyes to see how to come alongside our kids and grandkids and provide just the right discipline.

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